Before you say 'I DO'...(for the single ladies).

Hey ladies, enjoy this piece, I hope it blesses us all.
Firstly, to clarify, when I say single ladies, I mean unmarried ladies.
What exactly do we think the whole essence of being in relationships mean? Is it so that we can be experienced? Or is it so that we can be tagged as ‘normal’ in today’s society? Or perhaps, it’s just to have ‘fun’ as we call it.
To be honest, when we see some dudes, they may seem perfect as boyfriends. I mean, we see them and think oh, they’re hot, they could be the ‘guy-of-the-moment’, but what’s the whole essence when you know deep down that he really isn’t husband material. You certainly don’t want a guy that spends all his time in clubs- raving, drinking, womanizing and on and on as a husband. Now, you may think he’s cool and your friends think so too, but what happens when he becomes your husband?
I’m not writing to tell you the kind of dudes you should date or not date, because I really don’t know them. Asides that, wouldn’t you just feel as if they are rules and regulations, and trust me, they had to keep and much easier to break.
All I’m saying is you need to know God so well and then, you will be able to have a real/ideal spec of who the ‘one’ should be or who the one is. Knowing and obeying God just makes everything so much easier. Knowing Him intimately, helps you have standards, and that way, you know those you are not even going to give second thoughts to.
I don’t want us to feel obliged to date every single person that is attracted to us. Guys will definitely come, in fact, they should come, but it’s what we do with them or how we respond to them that counts.
I personally, don’t have a spec, but there’s one thing I know, he HAS to be a Christian. By Christian I don’t mean church-goer, no. I mean Spirit-filled, Jesus-lover Christian. I don’t need need to say he shouldn’t be womanizer, shouldn’t be a smoker and blah, blah, blah. Him being a Christian, covers it all.
Here’s the thing, if you don’t know who are looking for, you’ll find anything. And it’s only God that knows what’s best for you. In Jeremiah 29:11, He says concerning you “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Your future hubby is definitely included in the expected end.
I’m not married, but I have come to know that marriage is not rosy all the time. There are challenges, so how do we conquer them without Christ being the foundation of our home? He (Christ) isn’t one of the options, He’s the way (John 14:6).
One more thing, stop thinking about how fast your biological clock is ticking and try to speed up the process. Our Father, your Father isn’t restricted by time, in fact, He created it, so walk with His time.
On a final note, don’t focus on getting a husband, Jesus says in Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”.
Food for thought:
1. Don’t be in a relationship with someone for the sake of it, be in a relationship because you KNOW he’s the “one”.
2. “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her”`~ Maya Angelou (I

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