"Men will always be men"

Men will always be men. I mean, they could cheat from time to time, but it doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They are just being themselves.
Does any of that sound familiar? Yes? I thought so too. Well honey, it’s not normal. It’s not the way things should be. The bible says “do not be conformed to this world…”. If the world let’s you believe that men would always cheat and there’s nothing you can do about it, don’t conform to that ideology. The fact that it happens so often does not and would never make it right. You are made for great things, don’t settle for less.
There’s no doubt that a good looking guy/girl is always pleasant to look at, but what’s far more important is what lies beneath the pretty face, the well-built body, the tall frame or the slim body. Proverbs 31:30 says “Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised! Go deeper, stop looking at the superficial things, that will fade off.

Ever heard of the phrase “my better half”? Of course you have…lol! This phrase immediately gives us the idea that we are incomplete and we need someone to complete us. In other words, we are half, and we need another half. But, I completely disagree. Why, you ask? Well, it’s because the bible which is the truth says that “…and the TWO shall become one flesh” (Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:8; Ephesians 5:31). Notice that it says two, not half. Hence, it is two wholes, not halves that make one. Of course, that defies standard arithmetic and logic, but like I said, it’s the bible, it’s the truth and I believe it.
So, quit trying to make yourself complete in another man or woman and run to God to make you complete and perfect (Matthew 5:48).
I hope this blesses us all. Please feel free to leave questions, comments and suggestions and I will get back to you in due course.

Tomi Lawal


  1. Hi Tomi! I totally enjoyed reading this blog post... I agree with you on what you said... I've had lady friends who say the same thing--that all men are the same and such like.. and i usually am like, where are you from? cos i tell them that where i am from (Zion), that's not the culture there...and great stuff what it really should be about married couples.. two wholes become one...i never thought about it that way... What are your thoughts about when ppl say they are "going out"

  2. Hi Besa, thank you for your comment. Exactly, it's not the culture in Zion (love that).
    I never thought about it that way too, until the Holyspirit showed it to me.

    On "going-out", for me, I think it's just a getting-to-know-you stage. In as much as you would have asked God specifically about the person in question, I personally believe that you should still take time to know the person before going into a relationship proper, if you know what I mean?

    Having said that, one needs to be careful when doing this, especially if you've not heard from God specifically about the person. Now, what happens when one starts getting very emotionally attached to the person by "going-out" and at the end of the day, it's a 'no' from God? There is a high tendency that you could still decide to go ahead with it.

    Hence, my advice simply will be, when you start noticing that you're drawn to particular person, begin to pray, then try and get to know the person in a non-romantic way, just gist with them, it doesn't have to be at the cinema or at a nice restaurant. Just gisting casually, it goes a long way.

    For me, I think the point where I'd start going to the cinema or having dinner with the person would be the stage where I know or we both know that he is 'the one', but as a lady, I'd still want him to woo me, you know, have stories to tell later on. Don't think because the Holyspirit has told us both, then you have no work to do, you still got loads of work to do...lol

    Wow, this is almost like another post in itself:)
    What are your thoughts on it?

  3. hahahh I like that... He would still have loads of work to do.. I concur... So at what stage do you think Pastor and parents etc should get involved because you know in church we usually hear, talk to Pastor about your plans,etc...?

  4. I don't think there is a standard formula for these things. It happens at different stages for different people because we are all different and we all have different circumstances and situations.

    So, as much as I want to, I really don't have a definite answer to that.

  5. Tomi, i pray that God would give you more and more insight into his word so that I may be more blessed. Indeed we were created whole! Thank you, Tomi.

  6. Amen Temitope. Thank you so much, God bless you too!

  7. My dear friend, you are very wise.
    Love the post! And I agree, we need to renew our minds as children of God; not just complying with what goes on in the world.
    In addition, you're right the other person doesn't make you complete. The Bible says that "we are complete in Christ..." (New Testament - not sure exactly where).
    True stuff! Keep it up gurl.
    God bless.

  8. Amen Kemi! Thanks darling, God bless you too!

  9. Nice stuff u'v got dere! Keep it up sis

  10. Real blast from the past! Excellent post tho. love it.

  11. Tomi oh! Tomi! hehehe i read the first 2 lines.. and i was like "GOD bless you".. but then you just did me the more you look the less you see in the following lines.. hehehehe Weldone oh!

    The truth Tomi, is that the first 2 lines are true. Take it or not.. We men are wired in a very strange way.. and the most minute of things done by a woman can push a man in the wrong direcSHion as a man can only cheat when circumstance makes it so. This was a worthy read Bubba.. Cheers.




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