How I Overcame the Fear of Falling

Music Credit:
No Grey- Jonathan McReynolds
Igwe- David Omodunmiju

Chit-Chat: Books, Parties, Testimonies, Youth Fellowship

Hey everyone,

How's it going? It's been a while, hasn't it? Missed me? Yes? No? Oh well..LOL.

Well, the reason why I haven't posted in some time is because I haven't really felt inspired to post anything and I was trying not to put myself under pressure to post anything. Although, I did think about doing a book review of an amazing book I just finished reading, but that would have had to be a video as words would probably not do it justice.

So here's a chit-chat post just to share with you what I've been up to and the plans I've got for the upcoming weeks.

How I found out my Purpose

Hiya! Good to have you stop by today :)

Today's post is in response to what a friend asked me about knowing God's will/purpose for our lives. Considering that I am not particularly a guru in this area, I have decided to write from my own experience, with the hope that you can learn from mine and maybe share yours as well. That way, we get to learn from each other. So here we go.

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When I began having a personal relationship with God in February 2010, one of the two questions that was always on my mind was 'what is my purpose? Why am I here?', the second being 'how do I hear God?' I can't remember accurately, but I must have prayed about this quite frequently, but with no answer as such. However, one night, as I read my bible, there was a particular verse that I really loved, but I didn't take note of it as I read and so I forgot where it was. I asked the Holy Spirit to remind me and just like a thought in my mind, He said it (Matthew  10:27). I was so excited! That was the first time I could confidently say I heard God speak to me. What I didn't realise at the time was that this was the first piece to the puzzle on finding out my purpose.

Much Ado about Age?

So today’s discussion is about age difference in a relationships.

Is there a recommended age difference for couples in a relationship? Is there an age when you think it becomes too old or too young? Have you ever had that? What was your experience like?

For ladies, is it okay to be in a relationship with someone who is younger? Have you ever been in
that kind of relationship? What was your experience like or what’s it like if it’s still on going?

For the guys with someone who was or who is younger, what’s your experience like?

Is age really that big a deal?

Please leave your comments below, let's discuss!

Welcome Vlog

Here's a short welcome to my newly redesigned blog and some positive words for you :)

Please leave comments, feedback, questions and anything else in the comments section.

Can I be Honest with you?

Note: This post isn't about whether or not secular music is bad. It's simply about the change I was noticing in myself :)

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Let me be honest, over the past weeks, I came to realise that my priorities changed. I was beginning to fill my heart with more and more of worldly things. Normally, I rarely listen to secular music, but I noticed that in the past weeks it became very frequent. I even went as far as buying one of such songs on iTunes. Now, for someone who has no secular songs on her phone, this is clearly a big deal. In as much as these songs weren't particularly bad, they weren't edifying to say the least.

I realised that my appetite for the things of God was beginning to wane. Of course, in my head I was trying to rationalise these things, but I knew I was getting on a somewhat dangerous path. It wasn't only in the are of music that changes were occurring. I also didn't have as much desire to be with God any more. 

The thing about backsliding is that it doesn't just happen at once. It occurs in stages. So for me, I went from listening to secular songs sporadically to listening to it everyday to buying it.

The good news however is that I'm getting back to that place of intimacy with God again and I'm glad about that. It's a great place to be and I never want to leave again for several reasons. One of which is the fact that I don't really have the luxury of playing 'hot and cold' with God as the time is short and souls are perishing daily. So I need to be constantly depopulating the kingdom of darkness. The devil isn't playing, he is on a roll and constantly working hard to make sure his kingdom is populated. He has no days off, so why should I?

Christianity is a full-time job and there are 'no days off'. I had to look at my 'job description' (Bible) to be reminded of this.

So check yourself, is your heart still right with God?

1 Corinthians 10:12- "So let the one who thinks he is standing be careful that he does not fall."

You Mean More to Him

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For a lot of people, before they became Christians, they looked up to some Christians and felt they could never measure up to them. The said Christians seemed to have it all together, they looked so holy and it looked like God must have been extremely pleased with them.

However, one thing we did not realise was that we meant more to God than they did at the time. Here's what I mean. Jesus makes us understand in Luke 15 that He came for sinners. Using a parable, He explained that He would leave ninety-nine others just to the find the 'one' that was lost and there's more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine people who do not need repentance. I just find that to be very amazing and sweet.

Now guess what? If you're still lost (haven't accepted Jesus into your heart), He feels exactly the same way about you as well. He would choose you over others who do not need to repent. You mean more to Him. The amazing thing about God is that He never holds our sins against us, once we repent and let them go, He let's them go too. But the devil keeps trying to hold us back from going to God by using those very sins to keep us in guilt and condemnation. Those sins that God is in a hurry to forget.

All you need to do now is go to God just as you are. Take the broken pieces of your heart, the pains, the burdens, the sins and everything, roll them over to Him, He cares! Quit trying to be a better person all by yourself. You'll fail miserably. You've tried it over and over again. Let go and let God.

I love you dearly :)
Tomi

Readers' Mail: Should I give in?

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'Readers' Mail' is a new segment on this blog where I respond to messages/questions from blog readers.

The aim is to provide wise, godly counsel in love. So if you have any questions or issues that you're facing and you've been struggling to find someone to speak to about it, here's your chance :)

Send me an email on tomilolalawal@gmail.com or send me a message on any of my social media platforms if you have it. Please indicate if you would like to be anonymous.

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Mail:

"Hey Tomi,

How do you cope in the dating world and being a christian? I mean not letting go of your beliefs?

The thing is there is this guy who claims he is a dope christian but sex or living together is a must for him. Even though I said no, but this guy is cute!!! The guy was trying to play it in such a way that I will be begging for it later and it seems like everyone is getting married and so on and voila, I don't even have a toaster*.

Do you think there's anything like a 21st century christian?

D."

*Suitor, admirer

Feeling Unintelligent or not Smart Enough? Read this!

I'm struggling to find a suitable, yet catchy title for this post. So I thought to myself, why not write out the post first and then title it later. I'm doing just that.

This could sort of be a follow-up from my previous post about low self-esteem, read it here. Anyway, I talked about different areas of our lives that could cause low-self esteem, one of them being not feeling smart/intelligent enough and that has got me thinking a lot. Let's take a look at this analogy below. 

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The fastest fish is said to be Sailfish and it has supposedly recorded swimming speeds of nearly 112 KM/H (70 MPH). Now, that's fast isn't it? But let's take that Sailfish out of the ocean and bring it to land. How do you think it will fare? Very badly of course. You know why, because it isn't made for that environment. It hasn't being designed or created to live or function on land. It's natural habitat is in the ocean.

That Thing Called Low Self-Esteem

Hey everyone, this post is about something a lot of us have struggled with or still struggle with. It's low self esteem. Please read, learn from it, leave comments and share.

By the way, did you notice what I did there? I went straight into the topic, totally ignoring the fact that I haven't blogged for months and hoping you wouldn't realise. Well, I think it worked, so let's continue :D

Low self esteem is so rampant and I've also been a victim of it in the past.  For me, I never used to feel good enough. I felt like I could never really measure up to other people in my age group. They just seemed to have it all and I didn't or so I thought. I remember going for a friend's birthday over 3 years ago and I was just not comfortable. The issue was my friend was attending Imperial College at the time and as a result, most people in attendance were from Imperial as well. I on the other had just finished from a University no where near as glamorous or as good as that. As a result, I couldn't really flow well with everyone. I just thought they were all better than me and it really affected my confidence.